Student's Experience

Tom's Story

“NLP permeates my life in terms of how I operate.”

Tom made this and the following comments as he introduced himself to the class when he was serving as an assistant in a recent Practitioner Training.

I spent 25 years in corporate sales of nuclear imaging equipment (with Seiman's Medical), part of that time as director of sales for the western half of the U.S. During that time I took a lot of training, really good training. Kay is the best instructor I've ever associated with and a lot of what she teaches flows through, builds on, or adds to what I already knew. I found it a really neat mix.

NLP is helpful with everything I do. It's like there's a little voice in the background saying "If I hadn't had the (NLP) training I wouldn't be thinking this, knowing this, asking this question." I've seen it work on a very personal level and I've also seen it work in my business. I use it mostly to get or increase rapport. I operate very intuitively, but when I need to I can do it more consciously.

In my career I've been fortunate to have such a long association with the guys I worked with some of them reported to me years before I moved out of the corporate structure. Some of them call me now as they go through upheavals. These are senior guys approaching 55 and they're being laid off. NLP has been effective in this area as I've had an opportunity to be really helpful.

These guys in crisis often think in generalizations. They use large universal terms way off in the future when the crisis is now. I got them down to today and the fears that were keeping them from dealing with the crisis resourcefully. I helped them define achievable outcomes for now.

I had the skills and techniques to stay objective and see it all as a process and to see where they were in the process. I don't provide the answers, they do. I just get them out of the clutter.

NLP gives you the ability to have more understanding of others. It has benefited all of my relationships-professional, with friends and close friends, my spouse, and my children. My relationship with them is really good now.

My wife took the trainings first. It's because of her that I'm here. Now when we have differences, they get solved a lot easier. I have let go of a lot of need to defend and be in control. I listen to her feelings and criteria and respond.

If we really want to talk personally and deeply we go in the living room and talk. Now we have a common language for understanding and connecting. It allows us to be more aware of each other and we feel like we're in it together. It's been very beneficial for us. I would recommend it for any relationship.

And the fast phobia cure works! My sister had a flying phobia and a couple of years ago her husband bought a small plane. She was terrified to fly. I did the fast phobia pattern with her and the fear dissipated. You can tell people it works.

When I finished the course I said "I don't think I'll ever look at things the same way again." and I don't. It's really nice.

— Tom

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